“When faced with a dilemma, take a moment to sit with the issue. Don’t rush to decide what to do. Intend to let Divine inspiration flow to you, and it will be so.”
Christiane Northrup, M.D.
We All Face Challenges & Dilemmas
Let’s face it, we all have to face challenges and dilemmas in our lives.
I have learned that the less that I ‘push through’ but more so that I allow things to flow toward a solution, the easier I handle dilemmas. Just like a river flows over and around debris and obstacles, so it is for us in the earthly world as spiritual beings.
Trust is one of my favorite words and forces. I trust that things will work out and that solutions to dilemmas will present themselves. And when I trust and I believe this to be true, it happens.
I use TRUST as a verb and I expect good outcomes. This is what creates the natural flow to solutions.
So the magic formula is to drop resistance or another way to say this is to stop arguing with what is.
Next is to use trust as a verb and trust that things will work out and that solutions will present themselves.
And lastly, believe. Believe that things are always working out for your highest good because when you believe it, it is true for you. Very simple.
And never forget that life really is this:
“It’s all make-believe”
So with that said, I for one, make-believe in my story that things work out for me. I use MAKE -BELIEVE as a verb also. Something to think about.
Life has its ups and downs and it is interesting indeed. In fact the ebb and flow of life is what makes in interesting. :=)
Hitting Rock Bottom
However, there are times where we fall or hit our bottom. Whether it is through the loss of loved ones, addictions, illness, job loss, breakups, trauma, or just anything that we feel derails us and brings us to our knees.
In life we all experience these to one degree or another, or our loved ones and friends and colleagues do, because this is life.
These derailing times can be hard, very hard.
However, as a person who loves to offer HOPE and inspiration, I reflected on the quote I made above, and I could indeed find many examples and stories of people that I know who have shared their stories of how their rock bottom led them to a new chapter in their life and often times that new chapter was a beautiful one.
I remember reading somewhere or hearing someone say “When you throw your hands up in the air and give up, that is the best thing to happen”. Why? Because it means we stop the fight and we ‘break down to break through”. This is where the magic happens because we no longer are in resistance.
The Sweetness of All Of It
Through my years of my own experiences and hardships, my coaching of others and my own relationships, I have taken from these tough experiences, the ‘sweetness’. What do I mean by the sweetness?
I mean things like:
. When we have had an illness and we recover or it gets better, we no longer take our health for granted.
. When we lose someone we love, we are reminded to cherish those who are still here on earth next to us.
. When we give up our fight with our addiction(s) and find freedom.
. When we have learned boundaries that were necessary and can now feel safe and even experience JOY from this.
. When we decide that we have more power over our circumstances than we once thought, it brings freedom and peace of mind.
. When a relationship ends and we start the real relationship with ourselves and understand self-love.
. When we move or move on and find new things to cherish and new things to experience.
These are just a few examples of ‘the sweetness’ and I am sure you can come up with some of your own too. 🙂
I hope that this post has offered you something, whether it is insight, strength, HOPE, or anything at all that helps. That would make MY heart happy.
And as always, if you are struggling and need help, please reach out. It takes strength and courage to reach out and I know that you have that. I believe in you.
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“Know that you can always choose the thoughts you allow in your mind, so make the effort to replace disempowering, weakening thoughts with those of a higher spiritual frequency. It is your choice!”
– Dr. Wayne Dyer
You know I write a lot about this and I will continue to do so. Thoughts are things and we can CHOOSE which ones we want to focus on.
Yes, I know thoughts just randomly pop into our minds and that is okay. It is the ones we entertain that matter.
Think of it this way, if you had a dinner party and some of the guests that you invited were not suited to your way of being, or they were rude or nasty or anything that was negative. Would you keep inviting these people to your table?
NO! So why would we do it with our thoughts?
There is a magical combo that works well but it means that you have to practice self-care as well.
When you have a thought or multiple thoughts that are not serving you, recognize it, and then CHOOSE a new thought. However, with that said it is much easier to do when you are in a place of ‘feeling good’.
Do Things That Make YOU Feel Good
Therefore, do things every day that make you feel good and that show nurturing and caring for your body, mind and spirit. For example, I started my morning by reading more on the power of gratitude in my life. I am sipping on warm lemon water now and I have some peaceful and Zen type of music on.
It doesn’t matter ‘what’ you do, just do things that show you that you are sacred and loved!!!!!
When you feel better about yourself it is much easier to pivot your thoughts when those nasties arise.
So I leave you with the goal of two things today:
Do MORE things for YOU today that nurture you and make you FEEL GOOD
Consciously be AWARE of your thoughts and start replacing the nasties with BETTER thoughts.
Okay, I hope you found this helpful and have a great day everyone!
And please remember that if you are really struggling, it is always OK to reach out for help. That my friends is nurturing yourself too!
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“If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today.”
– E. Joseph Cossman
Do you just love that quote like I do? Right?
How much time do we lose in life to worry? Whatever the answer that comes to mind, it’s too much!
It reminds me of the saying about not letting thoughts live rent free in our heads. If they are not positive thoughts that are serving us, they have to move out! Same for worry. Sorry, I don’t need you here in my life and head.
What do I need you might ask? How about filling that space with peace, comfort, JOY, happiness, trust, HOPE, laughter, and more?
Now that is a better plan isn’t it? 🙂 And if we know that we probably won’t remember what we were worrying about last year on this day, we can see how unimportant a lot of worry really is.
All we have is the here and now. We hear that all the time but it really is true. Yesterday does not exist (not here anymore) and tomorrow, as we know, never comes and is not promised to anyone so let us live each moment in as much peace and JOY as we can and this means SORRY WORRY BUT YOU HAVE TO GO! 🙂
Here is a link to more posts on dealing with worry:
I was in a business FB group today and the topic came up about how people are much more emotional these days and rightly so!
It made me reflect on the fact that, I too, have been much more emotional. For those of us staying at home, I think we are all experiencing this and it is not necessarily a bad thing.
Maybe there are things we need to clear out and move or to heal and now is a good time for that. People are clearing out their houses and painting rooms, but we can also clear out any emotional baggage as well. If it is no longer serving us it can GO!
One of the ways to help with the movement of emotions or energy in motion, is to allow the emotions to surface and to let them come out. You can do this is positive ways as well.
For example, on my daughter’s birthday last week, I cried multiple times. I cried for the JOY we created together as a family as we celebrated her birthday together. I know this will be the one birthday that she will probably remember the most. We laughed, we cried and we enJOYed.
We even had a treasure hunt in the house. I put notes, a few gifts, that luckily I had bought and wrapped prior to this pandemic (which is unusual for me ) :-), and I hid pictures of her when she was young. She was thrilled finding these old pictures!
So many people came by to leave gifts on the steps or to wave and every time it was soooo moving. And I allowed the emotions to surface within myself. I allowed….
Many people are telling me that they are being emotionally moved by the compassion and kindness they see in the world at this time. This is another great way to allow and to move emotion.
I am enJOYing seeing people painting, playing their guitars, singing, and taking on projects that they had left of the back burner of life. That moves me too!
♥ What about you? ♥
Are you tapping into your emotional side and allowing? Are you deciding which emotions to keep and which ones no longer serve you? I hope so.
I really believe that we will emerge as a brand new butterfly when we bust out of this cocoon. 🙂 Can you see the new and beautiful YOU? I can.
Do you ever find yourself waking up to a train of thoughts about your day or your life? Does your mind race? Do these thoughts produce anxiety for you? Do you have thoughts something like I wish I didn’t start thinking this morning or I just want to go back to sleep?
We all have these thoughts as we start to wake up and start thinking about what we have to do, what is on or mind, or what we are currently worrying about. It’s common. The good news is that we can use this same technique of running thoughts to our advantage! Woo hoo!
What do I mean by this? Think of your thoughts like a train. They are moving and going from the next stop to the next or from thought to thought. They are moving and gaining momentum as they travel along. You get the idea.
So the easy thing to do is to change trains! Say STOP and then hop on the Gratitude Train. Start thinking of things to be grateful for. The bed you have to sleep in. That you opened your eyes one more time and you have been given another day on earth. That you have a job to go to. That you don’t have a job to go to. Be grateful for your dog or cat cuddled up beside you. The sounds of the birds chirping. Or the stillness. Or the feeling of your favorite sheets or blanket. ❤ That your heart is still beating. ❤ That the sun is shining. Or that the rain is refreshing the earth. That you can hear the rain…… etc. etc. etc. There are a zillion things you can find to be grateful for.
Once you get the gratitude train rolling you will start to feel better, your worry will fall away and best of all you will start to attract good things in your day and your life!
Also your smile 🙂 will be brighter and your heart ❤ will be happier and you will have a ripple effect on all of those that you encounter so even your relationships will improve. 🙂 It is a win-win any way you look at it.
6 Ways To Ramp Up Your Positive Vibe & Lower Your Stress!
Stress is the number one killer ... hands down. It affects every part of our being and our health and is a contributing factor to all disease in the body and mind. The best thing we can do to alleviate stress is to work at ramping up the positive and feel good side of our lives. Here are six ways to do that.
An old Jewish saying recommends that we “bless one thousand things every day”. The more we bless the more we practice gratitude as well. They go hand and hand. From my own research, I have learned and believe, that Blessing something is the highest frequency available to us. Blessing something or someone really taps into the frequency of the highest vibration of all and has tremendous benefits.
Practice gratitude from the moment you arise in the morning until your head hits the pillow at night. Actively find things to be grateful for. The pillow beneath your head, the dishes you need to wash because you indeed have food to eat, the way you can walk by yourself to the bathroom… there are always things to find to be grateful for.
Be Aware Of Your Negative Thoughts
Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention,
usually to your breath or your thoughts. Mindful breathing is often used to
control stress, but mindful thinking can lead to a more positive life. We tend
to take our thoughts for granted but they can still make a difference as they
float through our minds.
I am very mindful and careful of the thoughts I think and use. I totally get that thoughts are tools that can create or destroy. I pick very wisely.
I control my thoughts, they don’t control me
Introduce Positive Thoughts
The staff at The Mayo Clinic point out that just like our thoughts can upset us when we don’t notice them creeping up, but we can also purposely introduce thoughts that make ourselves feel better. Trying to replace negative thoughts from our subconscious with positive thoughts from our conscious mind can be a very valuable tool.
I encourage my clients who struggle with negative thoughts, to have handy, positive replacement thoughts that they can draw upon when needed. The most powerful type of replacement thought are ones that also induce immediate gratitude as well. For example, have a thought ready about how you love your child, or pet, or even your favorite sweater and how it warms you and comforts you! All positive thoughts count.
Just do it! If you truly want to be happier and to lower your stress, refuse to partake in negative experiences that you have control over. Stop watching the news, ditch the FB friends or friends that are chronic complainers who always are finding fault with the city, the government, the neighbor, the etc. etc. etc. Who has time for this if they are trying to be stress free and happier? For me, I choose JOY! I say it over and over again and you will see it is a common thread in my blogging as well. I shout it from the rooftops “I CHOOSE JOY AND PEACE”!!!!! 🙂
Look At Challenges As Opportunities
An article by author Paul Sloane published by Lifehack.org recommends looking at potential challenges or setbacks as opportunities to go in another direction. We tend to look at where we are as the culmination of a lot of hard work and so when things don’t go our way we feel like that work was for nothing. What if we looked at it in a different way? I offer you the thought that we have choices and choices mean change. We can always re-choose, re-group and decide again and we do this by looking at where we came from, or where we currently are, and then re-adjusting our direction because we realize we nowchoosedifferently. There are no mistakes, just experiences and experiences lead us to the new ones by helping us to discern the next step for us!
Spend Time In “Input
A 2016 article by Inc. points out that we are either in “input” mode or “output” mode. Output mode is when we are doing things for others, or making things, like when we are at work or doing things for our family and friends. Input mode is when we are doing things for ourselves like reading books, exercise, listening to positive materials and such. We can become overwhelmed and resentful when we spend too much time in output mode and not enough time practicing self-care and doing things to make us feeling fulfilled, so be sure to incorporate positive inbound activities that make you feel good and supported.
One of the things I have learned about putting things out to the universe or praying or whatever you want to call it, is that it works but there are ways that work better than others.
Today I will share my favorite go-to prayer that I use often and share with others often.
We all go through stressful situations in life. It’s not a matter of if we will, we will!!! Count on it! It is how we transition through these times that calls for the best use of our time and energy.
So without further adieu here is my go-to:
“Thank you God/Universe/Jesus/Source/You Fill in the Blank/ for already solving this problem for me.” And then you let it go! What we hold in our field with fear and dread stays attached to us and attracts more! This is why you want to declare that the problem or situation has been resolved and do so with Gratitude! When you say it, put in lots of grateful feelings along with the words and mean it! And then you release it!
How do you let your problem go? You do whatever it takes to shift your attention off of it. Go to a movie, read a positive book, watch a video that raises your vibe, talk to a friend about ‘something else’, not the problem, tell a new story about how things ARE working out for you, etc. etc. Do whatever you must do to detach and shift your energetic and emotional attention to the matter. And then you let the Source that you believe in, solve your problem. It is important to note, that your problem cannot be solved if you keep putting out the energies that are associated with what you don’t want!
So in a nutshell we say the prayer acting as if the problem has already been solved, we do so with mucho gratitude and then we let it go!
I hope you find this helpful and also helpful to know that we all go through stressful times in life. You are not alone.
When it comes to people affecting our moods, we have more control than we think. In fact, we’ve got the magic. We truly do. It’s all about learning how to harness the power also known as our personal power.
Here is a quote I like from Esther Hicks.
“When it feels to you as if someone is pushing your button, realize that you are the one with a great big button out there that is just begging to be pushed. If you don’t put it out there, no one will push it.”
Let that one sink in! Imagine you are walking around with this big button on your heart that is saying “Push me, push me, and I will react”. It is VERY empowering to know and own the fact that NO-ONE can push our buttons or offend us or anything else, unless we choose to be offended, hurt, etc. We have personal power and responsibility when it comes to these situations.
Sure it’s not easy at times and no-one deserves to be downright abused, but in life and in my coaching practice, I have seen a lot of people suffer needlesslybecause they have chosen to wear that button and wear it proudly :-). I personally choose to suffer the least amount possible in my life, so I actively keep that big ol push button tucked away and try not to display or use it. There is a saying I have liked for all of my adult life “What other people think of me, is none of my business”. This has helped me to better react in the challenging situations.
I really believe that the first step to change is to actively acknowledge and become consciously aware of how we react and respond to things and outside stimulus provided to us in the game of life. The better we master our reactions, the less we suffer. Sounds good to me. What about you? 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Life and Nutrition Coach who resides in Northern Ontario and believes in empowering others to live life fully and with and in JOY!