We are not disturbed by things, but by the view which we take of them”.
When you look in the mirror, what do you say to yourself? Do you say “Hey Hi Me!” or do you, like most of us, criticize what you see? I don’t know why I struggle with this so much. I am all about love and loving oneself and yet I always get caught off guard when I look in a mirror.
Is it a brain thing? Does our brain have a critical eye that looks for changes and variances or maybe it expects to see a certain thing and then does get caught off guard. Just like I do when I remember I am 53 years old. How can that be??? I’m still a little kid! I seriously feel that way in my soul. I admit I am very childlike in my excitement for life and I tend to see the world through childlike eyes …. which I think is awesome btw 🙂
Whatever the reason I just want to get to the place where I look in the mirror and say “Hi Beautiful, how’s it going today? EnJOYing life? Great!”
An Amazing Story of Transformation from Suffering to FREEDOM!
Last night in the grocery store I was witness to something pretty amazing!
I ran into a woman who used to work for me and she was a different person. I have run into her a couple of times in the last couple of years and each time she has transformed more and more into this new beautiful person. But last night she was off the charts AMAZING!
In the past she was sick, in pain, down, irritable and you could tell she was just not happy. She didn’t enjoy her work or her life.
I will call this woman ‘Mary’. What changed for Mary? Mary became empowered. She left her husband and ventured out on her own. She now has her own home and she is happy. Her energy was light and airy and her eyes twinkled and sparkled and she looked like a completely different person to me.
Mary is excited about life now, no longer in physical pain, and she appeared radiantly happy. It just brought me so much JOY to see this. She even declared how happy she is and you could see it!
Sometimes in life we have to leave things like situations, jobs, relationships when they are no longer serving us for our highest good. What is the price we pay if we do not and we are suffering? We stay in suffering.
For me, any relationship that I have in my life, should empower me, not disempower me. Whether it is my friend, my partner, or a business relationship, I believe it should be mutually empowering, uplifting and beneficial for all, otherwise I am out.
Mary was such a clear messenger on how powerful and positive a change like this could make. She honored herself enough to leave this relationship that was not serving her and was not a loving and supportive situation, to keep it simple. I will not go into details. The point is that Mary took her life back and is now thriving and not merely surviving.
I just had to share this story because to me it is a sign of HOPE and what can be. Our lives can change when we choose to look closely at those things that are not serving us and are in fact disempowering ourselves, even if they are simple things like habits, conversations, self-talk, fears, etc.
By taking a look at what makes you ‘feel good’ in your life and what ‘sucks your life force and energy’, you can get clear on what you want more of in your life and what has to go.
I hope you found this post helpful even if it is just to open up more to ‘feeling’ your way through life and to use your feelings as your GPS to more Happiness.
Have an amazing day and I send nothing but Blessings to all who are reading this. 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer & Coach who loves to empower and encourage people to take charge of their happiness and to design lives that they love. When you love your life, you radiate out into the world that love and it makes a huge difference for all of mankind. 🙂
While looking up the Webster’s definition of authenticity, I picked this one as my favorite. Number 3 of course. 🙂
3 : true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character
is sincere and authentic with no pretensions
We hear this word a lot out there today. It’s all about being authentic and I couldn’t agree more! It’s where it’s at! It’s the place to be!
I thought today I would write a little about what it means to me, when I think of us being authentic. Authentic people have the strength and the courage to be true to themselves and to be who they are. They embrace their uniqueness and know that it is in fact their gift!
Authentic people are honest, vulnerable, intimate, unique, bold, daring, passionate and real. They are brave enough to share a piece of themselves with the world. They are strong enough to bare their soul and to let it shine!
You see authentic people in the world with labels like artists, creators, musicians, authors, poets, rebels, free spirits, the givers, the lovers, the cooks, the bakers, and the candlestick makers. Everywhere you look you see them. 🙂
There is a tender and vulnerable side to authenticity too. It involves approaching life with sincerity, honesty, openness, and vulnerability.
And then there is the daring side of authenticity that involves boldness, greatness, and glory!
Whatever words you attach to it, I wish for you the JOY of being and living through your authentic self. We are all here to discover our gifts and authentically share them with each other. May you live the beautiful and authentic life of your dreams and desires!
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Board Certified Nutritionist and lover of life! She has claimed her authenticity and loves using words to inspire, uplift and empower others in the world.
Anita Moorjani, author of “Dying to be Me” and more recently “What if THIS is Heaven”, on a recent FB Live Video had shared the concept of Self-Love rather than Self-Sacrifice. We are all good in the self-sacrifice department, but many of us fall down in the self-love arena, wouldn’t you agree?
I think the message of more self-love is an ever-important message, especially for the women of the world, who tend to take care of the needs of everyone else first and foremost.
One of the ways I personally am trying to practice self-love is by applying personal forgiveness. For example, when I have a thought such as I should not have said that, or did I really do that, or whatever thought that pops to mind that causes me feelings of unworthiness, regret, guilt, or shame, etc., I try to apply what I now call “Instant Forgiveness”.
In An Instant!
Lately I have been getting a profound understanding of the power of ‘in an instant’. This most likely stems from technology as in sending an email or a photo from one of my devices and seeing it received on another, at what seems to be the exact same time or instant. The witnessing of this has opened my mind and instilled a knowing in me that things can indeed happen instantly. I have come to believe that healing, forgiveness or letting go of something whether it’s a thought, a belief or a pattern does not have to be a long drawn out process. We can forgive ourselves in an instant if we make that our intention. Just think of that email sent across the world, in an instant and you know anything is possible… in an instant. 🙂
Everyday I am working on ways to practice more self-love. One of the best ways I have found is to take time to read from books like Anita’s current book, “What if THIS were Heaven?”. One of my favorite quotes from the book so far, is a message that was given to her when she found she had once again gotten lost in everyone’s pain and the woes of the world. It goes like this “Remember your only work is to love yourself, value yourself, and embody the truth of self-worth and self-love so that you can be love in action. That is true service, to yourself and to those around you.”
So today I leave you with the concept of “Instant Forgiveness” for yourself and others because the moment we forgive, we give to ourselves the gift of the release of pain and suffering. Let us forgive instantly and often so we can be the love that the world so needs right now. Will you join me by practicing Instant Forgiveness and more Self-Love? Let’s do it for the world, shall we? 🙂
Maggie Holbik is a Life & Business Coach who believes that if you love life, if will love you back… now that’s the magic.