Today’s blog post is an excerpt from Dr. Bernie Siegel’s book “365 Prescriptions for the Soul”. He says it perfectly here:
THE GREATEST TRUTH I know about life is that love is the answer. If you ask me what the question is I will tell you it is every question you could ever ask. Love is always the answer to every question and problem. We are here to love and be loved and learn a few things in the process.
I can never be wrong when I choose to love. Love rewards me by bringing meaning to my life. I know when I choose to love I will always be in the right place at the right time. It provides my life with the order and hamony that bring me peace.
All I ask of life is to be given the chance to love, and I pray that I will be able to do that, despite my imperfections. My days are devoted to acting as if I am the lover I want to be, and I know someday I will become who I hope to be. Until that day, those around me remain grateful for my attempt.” End of Quote
I hope you enJOYed the excerpt from Bernie’s book today as much as I did. We can never be reminded enough that “Love is All There Is”.
Lately I have been pondering on both the word and the power of forgiveness. When you break the word down, it is really about giving. What do we give when we forgive?
We give love, hope, compassion, empathy, and we hold space for healing. Now, this can be for others or for ourselves. I have come to a place where I am pretty comfortable in the forgiveness department when it comes to others because I figured it out long ago, when I forgive I feel better. I’m pretty selfish that way LOL!
However, forgivingoneself sometimes takes on a daily challenge. A few weeks ago I was thinking what if we looked at each day as a chance to forGIVE ourselves each day like a goal! Like we get to GIVE ourselves some LOVE and COMPASSION. 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤
When I looked at it this way, I started to kind of like it. It was like okay, let’s bring on some forgiveness here for myself for whatever. This is a good thing. Again selfish, I know. My bad. 🙂
My spiritual and soul self knows that there is nothing to forgive, which is cool too, but my human self falls into the humanness stuff, so I work at forgiving myself when necessary. I kind of look at it this way, the sooner I forgive the faster I can raise my frequency and be a light for others, so I just do it now!
Of course, some days are easier than others and on a lot of days there is no need, but when the occasion arises to forgive, I try and take it. 🙂
I like the words of Marissa Peer “To make mistakes is human but to forGIVE yourself is divine.”
I think one of the greatest gifts we can give our children and our loved ones, or anyone in our lives really, is the example of the ability to forgive. It is a gift that is like none other. I hope that you take an opportunity today to forGIVE yourself if you feel you need to and to enJOY the gift that the experience offers.
In Love & Light,
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and an Certified Infinite Possibilities Trainer who loves to free herself and others from anything that causes us to suffer unnecessarily and causes pain, especially if that suffering blocks us from JOY. Maggie believes that we are deliberate creators here on earth and that JOY and LOVE are our birthrights.
As of late, I seem to be lead to the words compassion and compassionate. I myself, am working diligently at being more compassionate and less judgmental which quite honestly is a work in progress. The cool thing though, is I am realizing that the more compassionate I am, the less I suffer. Wow. Think about that one for a moment…..
The More Compassionate We Are, The Less WE Suffer
The more compassionate we are, the less WE suffer. I don’t know about you, but I’m in. 🙂
Just imagine a scenario where and when you might be judging someone without compassion. Maybe it’s judging the acts of a parent from your childhood, or a situation you witnessed at the park, or someone who declares that they are a supporter of a certain cause, or way of being, and you witness the opposite, or the grumpy store clerk that you want to judge and give the evil eye to. You know this list. It’s endless.
When I was a teenager, I had an ‘experience’ which I will now call a spiritual experience. It was made known to me that I was here on earthto learn to “Love and Not Judge”. I mostly forgot about this for much of my life, but lately I am getting gentle nudges to remember this and to act upon it. These reminders come through movies like the one I watched the other day called “The Shack”, which I really en-JOY-ed and recommend. It’s now on Netflix.
Reminders also come from watching the pains of those I love and my own pains as we go through life and we interact with those around us. I am reminded to let go of being the ‘judger‘. I know not why people do what they do and really it does not matter. The only thing I know for sure is that LOVE does heal all wounds, and true healing love is unconditional. Maybe not always in this lifetime for everyone, but it is possible and that gives me HOPE. There is always HOPE.
The Less We Judge Others, The More Peaceful WE Are!
What I also know for sure, is that the less I judge, the more peaceful I am and the more peaceful those I encounter are. Who likes to be judged? It’s an awful feeling. It’s like when you have someone come into your home and tell you what you should get rid of, or that you don’t need something, or you do need something, or you shouldn’t wear a certain piece of clothing because of xyz, or you should lose weight, or you should gain weight, or you should quit smoking, or you should stop this behavior or that behavior, or you should be this way or that way, or you should have said this or you shouldn’t have said that. It truly feels like an invasion of self and soul and it makes one very vulnerable.
Start With Self & Then Expand
We all know that having compassion for oneself is the ultimate compassion mountain to climb. I can be very hard on myself, just like the clients I coach who tell me how hard they are on themselves, so I know it’s not just me. I think we all struggle with this one because we are so afraid of self betrayal and truly struggle with loving ourselves and knowing that we are worthy. The secret here, is that if there is no judgement, worth does not even come into question!!!!! Wowsa! Amazing! Eureka! Something to think on and ponder on very deeply……
I am bearing witness to the many ways I judge and I am working on getting better at it. I am sorry to all those who I have passed judgement on and yet I am compassionate for myself for doing so. The exciting thing about all of this, is that awareness moves us forward. I am excited to work on having more compassion and I understand that all journeys involve steps, but they all start with the first….
I hope you found some comfort in this writing and I would love to hear your comments on how you have found more compassion in your life. That is another thing that I have learned, we don’t have to do it all alone…. being together on the journey provides comfort as well.
Blessings to all of you reading this. Blessings sent to others are of the highest and most compassionate frequency available to us. It’s like LOVE at its utmost, so many, many BLESSINGS sent to you, right now, right in this moment as YOU read this words.
With Much Love,
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach, Board Certified Nutritionist and human being who is trying to remember to have more compassion and to forgive self and others quickly and easily so she can make space for more LOVE in her life and in the lives of those around her.
“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.”
Do you ever have visions or get inspired just before you wake up or get out of bed? I do often and this morning was no different. This little drawing was the first thing I did after making my lemon water this morning.
There are two things I am learning and getting at a much deeper level. One is that everything is art because we are all creators, so everything is art to me now… the food I make, the drawing/chart/whatever you want to call it picture in this blog post, the words I am writing, and on and on. It’s all art becaues I am creating it!
The second thing I am really understanding is that I KNOW without a shadow of a doubt, that everything IS energy, but now I am getting deeply how everything is about energy exchange! As my picture shows, there is energy being exchanged in all directions all the time:
Between the sun and the earth
Between the sun and food and growing food
Between the sun and people
Between the sun and our pets
Between us and our pets
Between people and people
Between business owners and their clients
Between words the reader of the words
Between sound and the listener of the sound
and on and on an on.
The key here is what kind of energy are you exchanging in any situation? Is it warming and soothing like the sun can be? Is it uplifting to your soul? Does it bring a smile to your face? Are your serving others with the energy you put out?
Why not ponder on this for a moment or as you go through your day? Observe the energy exchanges that you have and see if they are serving you for your highest good or if they could use some enhancements.
I will close with a saying that I think ties in well here and will leave you with this thought that I hit home on time and time again. “What you seek, seeks YOU!” So, think of that when you are out there exchanging energy. Want more love? Give more love! Want more kindness in your life? Give more kindness! Want more compassion in your life? Be more compassionate….. and on and on and on…
Have an amazing day everyone and I am sending you so much juicy positive energy that I KNOW you can feel it right now! Lap it up K? 🙂
Maggie Holbik.com is a Certified Life Coach and Artist… yep she’s an Artist 🙂 who loves to uplift and inspire others for no other reason other than it makes them feel good and in turn she feels good. 🙂 WOW! What she seeks, she gets 😉