Acceptance, cancer, hope, My Cancer Journey, strength

What I Want At This Time In My Life

Peace

My Journey With A Stage IV Cancer Diagnosis

After 9 months of living with a diagnosis of apparent Uncurable Cancer according to medical diagnostics and opinion, I have come to a few conclusions on what works for me.

What I really want and need each day is PEACE…. peace of mind, peaceful rest, and peace within my heart.

I don’t feel like I need to be known as ‘Brave’ or as a ‘Fighter’, although I acknowledge that I am indeed both of those things.

What is important to me is for me to be at ✌ PEACE.

How Do I achieve this?

So how do I achieve this? I do it first and foremost by accepting what is.

I have this diagnosis. Yes I do. I cannot resist what is because when I do that I am in resistance and in the frequency of fear, which are two places that I don’t want to be.

So I accept what is, I expect the best, I appreciate everything and I have gratitude for whatever I can latch onto. This my friends gives me the peace I seek.

When I lay my head to rest at night I no longer worry about the troubles of the earthly world anymore. They no longer seem as important to me. I recognize that I am a spiritual and infinite being.

It is interesting because I also no longer care about things that I thought I would care about. For example, when I die cremation or burial? I don’t care. What color or type of casket? I don’t care. And on and on my list goes….

What I do care about is as you know, is having PEACE and JOY.

Did I laugh today? Wow, that orange was so delicious. Look at the kindness shown to me today. I had energy to write a blog post today. Yay! I sat in someone’s presence and we just loved each other with no judgment or hidden agenda. People sang to me. I have an appetite even if for a moment. Bella is purring and lying on top of me as I see Sparkle dust all the way up to the ceiling (true story). I am so loved. I love so much.

Sweet juicy luscious oranges…. a gift from the Gods.

There have been so many gifts that I have received on this journey and I am so grateful for them.

What About You My Friends?

It is my wish that others who choose to do so, benefit in some way from these insights. We put so much energy into our earthly journeys and roles, but what is truly important for YOU?

Can you seek peace now? Are some things really worth the so called fight? Where does your JOY come from?

Go within. This is where you will find your answers and I promise you they never appear from fear and strife but they always show themselves when peace is present.

I love you all!

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In Your Darkest Hour or Your Weakest Moment You May Just Find Peace

When I think of death, I think of peace and stillness…. that purely glorious and tranquil space that you have no words for because none will be needed.

Fortunately, one of the things that I have recently discovered about life and living, is that you can reach that type of peace right inside of life and interestingly enough you may just discover it at your darkest hour, your weakest moment or when your pain is the greatest.

Maybe you are going through struggle or strife or maybe your world just turned upside down seemingly overnight. Life can slap us sometimes and from all angles. This IS life.

But do you want to know the sweetness about this? It is here in that very moment, when peace can be found. Now this is just my opinion and from my own experience, but I believe it is because when you just stop struggling, or when you feel you can’t bear another moment or more news, that is when you stop resisting and there it is! There is the peace. Wow. Surprise and Hello and Welcome!

And then the peace says to you:

“I have always been here for you but you were too busy to see me. You were too busy trying to get anywhere but here… but little one I have found you now and may you enJOY this peace that surrounds you. May you relish in it and know that I am always here for you.

I hope that no matter what you are going through that you know that peace can find you. I promise you. It is when we stop searching…. it comes and it will come when you need it most if you are open to receive it.

I send you nothing but Blessings….

In Love & Light….

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Breaking Down To Break Through

Quote by Maggie Holbik: “Sometimes in life we fall down or even hit rock bottom because we are meant to find something there”. #trust

Life has its ups and downs and it is interesting indeed. In fact the ebb and flow of life is what makes in interesting. :=)

Hitting Rock Bottom

However, there are times where we fall or hit our bottom. Whether it is through the loss of loved ones, addictions, illness, job loss, breakups, trauma, or just anything that we feel derails us and brings us to our knees.

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In life we all experience these to one degree or another, or our loved ones and friends and colleagues do, because this is life.

These derailing times can be hard, very hard.

However, as a person who loves to offer HOPE and inspiration, I reflected on the quote I made above, and I could indeed find many examples and stories of people that I know who have shared their stories of how their rock bottom led them to a new chapter in their life and often times that new chapter was a beautiful one.

I remember reading somewhere or hearing someone say “When you throw your hands up in the air and give up, that is the best thing to happen”. Why? Because it means we stop the fight and we ‘break down to break through”. This is where the magic happens because we no longer are in resistance.

The Sweetness of All Of It

Through my years of my own experiences and hardships, my coaching of others and my own relationships, I have taken from these tough experiences, the ‘sweetness’. What do I mean by the sweetness?

I mean things like:

. When we have had an illness and we recover or it gets better, we no longer take our health for granted.

. When we lose someone we love, we are reminded to cherish those who are still here on earth next to us.

. When we give up our fight with our addiction(s) and find freedom.

. When we have learned boundaries that were necessary and can now feel safe and even experience JOY from this.

. When we decide that we have more power over our circumstances than we once thought, it brings freedom and peace of mind.

. When a relationship ends and we start the real relationship with ourselves and understand self-love.

. When we move or move on and find new things to cherish and new things to experience.

These are just a few examples of ‘the sweetness’ and I am sure you can come up with some of your own too. 🙂

I hope that this post has offered you something, whether it is insight, strength, HOPE, or anything at all that helps. That would make MY heart happy.

And as always, if you are struggling and need help, please reach out. It takes strength and courage to reach out and I know that you have that. I believe in you.

With Much Love,

Maggie

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Squeeze Out The ♥ JOY ♥ Even in Tough Times

I shared a quote on Facebook today, along with some additional thoughts of my own.

Here was the quote:

“Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enJOY and receive it fully. And when life is not so good, remember that it will not last forever and better days are on the way.” Anonymous

My addition to it:

And if you want to take it to the next level, try to EnJOY it even when it is not so called “Good” … we can never get lost time back so let’s squeeze as much JOY out of EVERY moment that we can even when it is challenging. When it seems hard to do, look for things to be grateful for, think of who you Love and who Loves you, Smile at Beautiful memories, send Inspiration and Hope to others, listen to Happy music, take pictures of the sky, notice how blue the sky is, Love up your pet, drink a glass of water all while appreciating that you have clean water to drink, …… the list is endless. Use your internal power and focus wisely. 

Can you add to this list? Why not get out a pen and paper or grab your phone and use your Note feature to jot down some more things. I promise you if you do, you will feel so good and that sounds pretty darn good right about now, doesn’t it? 🙂

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Be Like Bamboo!

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“As for the future: I’ll go on believing there is one – maybe even a happy one… Whatever it may be, one thing is for sure – the adventure is not over”.  Lauran Bascall

How we choose to see life now makes a huge difference in how we feel about ourselves and our lives. Do you tend to long for the past or the way things were? Or are you the kind of person who is creating your future in your mind?  Or have you mastered living in the present?

Whatever place we are at, it is always easier if we see the future through the eyes of Hope. Knowing that life is a roller coaster of ups and downs makes it interesting to say the least. We all go through struggles, disappointments, grief, etc., but it’s how we adapt that makes the difference.

I heard a Japanese proverb or such that says that “women are strong like bamboo”. This means that they are adaptable and bending as they go through life and all of life’s challenges. The more we can be adaptable and bendable the stronger we are. Just thinking of this theory, brings me comfort.

Being like bamboo means we also adapt to where we are now and how we see the future. Knowing we have been like bamboo in the past, means we can be strong in the future too. Let us trust in the adventure and remain like bamboo.

MaggieHolbik.com is a Life & Business Coach who enjoys spending time in nature and at her Happy Place.

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