Good morning everyone! I wanted to share with you how I felt when I read these words from Byron Katie.
But before I do, just to share some good news, I figured out another technological hack and here is the audio link from SoundCloud which is exactly the same verbal content as this written blog post. So one can listen in audio format or they can read or both 🙂
Listen to Reality Is Always A Story of The Past.m4a by Maggie Holbik on #SoundCloud
Byron Katie works a lot with thoughts, and she calls it ‘The Work.’ So this quote of her says, ‘reality is always the story of a past.’
Reality is always the story of a past. I just love that! I say it this way however, ‘Reality is a story of the past.’
The reason I love this concept, is because I’ve been saying for years in my lectures, and in my coaching work, that the past is really just what we say it is!!!
We all have had experiences in our lives. We all BELIEVE that we have indeed had these experiences, and that they are true and real for us. And we SAY they are and that they are reality….. or at least our reality 😉
What I find super interesting and fascinating is you can take several people, and ask them all individually about a situation in the past and receive a different version of the so-called Reality.
So let’s say for example, it was a family event or a Christmas dinner many years ago, and you have a group of siblings, and they start sharing about that Christmas dinner in say the year 2005, or whatever or whenever it was. These people will all, and I’ve seen this over and over again, these people will ALL have different versions of that story! And they might even get into a little push and shove match or a little arguing about who’s right or who’s wrong. And the reality is, who is really right?
My suggestion is, they are ALL right!!! They are ALL correct!!! Their story IS their reality. They have created that reality for themselves!
It is really powerful when we understand this, because this can free us from pain. If we look at our past and we say our reality was painful, and that we are triggered from the past, and that this or that has happened to us in the past, and we reflect on it, we end up making that reality we’ve created even bigger and bigger, and bolder and more and more vibrant! It then becomes larger than life so to speak!
I like to be selective in my reality of the past. I CHOOSE what I reflect on. In fact, I’m very much into living in the NOW now. 🙂 It is just so free here. It’s freeing and JOYful and it releases me from a painful past!
And if I do CHOOSE to look at the past, I am picky and choosey. I select the memories or the realities that I’ve created that make me happy to reflect on. 🙂
So there’s my tip for the day. And if you get a chance, look into the Work of Byron Katie… it is really awesome. She does amazing work. It is very, very helpful. I know it’s helped a lot of people.
Have a great Day.
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